MY STORY

I'm not a waiter.

Well…actually, I have waited tables…. but what I mean is, I’ve never been one to wait for things to work out or “get better”.  I believe that your preferred life is waiting on you to claim it!

A decade ago, this theory was tested, I left down South, headed to the Big Apple where I knew absolutely no one.

I left with:
A suitcase.  No job.  No job prospect.  No apartment.  And one expired pepper spray. 

True story.  

I had just enough money to stay in a shady motel in Newark (this was before AirBnB was a thing) for one week.  I hit the ground running and bustled in and out of what felt like the "Bates Motel" into the city daily, with a grin on my face.

I had one week to find a job, a place, and the surface of a purpose...... or return home to "I told ya so's".

I didn’t have the “how” figured out, but I knew where I wanted to be. The how came later, through perseverance, and introspection.

I won't chat your ear off with the details of my journey… I will simply sum it up to say that curiosity is what has been my saving grace.  Being curious about other ways of living, of being, of experiences of others along with mine!  

I continue to curiously explore multiple avenues to achieve my goals.

Along the bumpy ride, moving apartments, changing jobs and maneuvering relationships, I had to let go of some of the stuff I was lugging around to truly tap into the best of me.  It was the only way that I learned to grow through the struggles.  My shoulders were aching! 

That banged up scratched up bag was overflowing with residual effects of unresolved heartache, refusal to forgive, betrayal,  resentment, comparing myself to others, not trusting my gut…among others. 

I had to unpack...shed some layers...repack....break a zipper....fix the zipper....sit on the bag to try and make it all fit (in an overhead bin).....and then start over again to unpack what wasn’t helping me to thrive!  I could have missed the trip of my life!  I continue to unpack the layers on the journey of life.

Maybe you've been told you are "too sensitive" by your partner but your true story is that you fully own your values and boundaries?

Or perhaps the story of "I'm a parent now, so my relationship and self-care needs go unmet" is familiar?

Maybe you've been told you have commitment issues, so you are living that story out subconsciously and your relationships have suffered?

What’s your story?  What is not working for you?  Are you ready to join me in exploring and changing the stories that can lead to more fulfilling relationships?

ABOUT ME

I love working with couples because it's like being a foreign translator.  I love witnessing "A-Ha!" moments as they truly understand something (that's been said a million times) for the very first time. People enter relationships with their own set of "norms" and "shoulds" that they may expect their partner to also have.  I love helping couples to not only "hear" each other when they have different "rules" to relationships, but encouraging them to be curious about the rules of relationships that they have been living by.  

I would love to help YOU examine, get rid of, reshape, or create new rules together. 

Bonus!  As a Pre-marital Prepare/Enrich Certified Facilitator, I often integrate the Prepare/Enrich relationship assessment in my work with couples, which is a valuable resource for pre-marital counseling but useful for couples in all phases as well. Learn more about it here!